Guyz,
If our new sotviet aliance to destroy THE MAN is ever going to get anywhere, we need to decrease the hostility level of this message board. I think step UNO is to have fewer You-messages assesing our problemz.
Examples of You-messages:
"You always show up late."
"You speak insufficiently broken English."
"You don't take this project seriously"
"You're a control freak"
"U SUX"
Instead, to assess our problems in ways more consistant with solution finding, we should use "I-messages".
"I-messages" take the following form:
I feel ______(emotion) when you _______(behavior described neutrally) because _______(interest).
Here are examples of "I-messages"
"I feel frustrated
when you change back all my editing changes
because I want to have input and I don't want to waste time making changes if they are ignored."
"I feel unorthodox
when you send viral e-mail attachments
because I RULEZ!"
"I feel belittled
when you mock my group mediation stratagies on your message board
because I take myself too seriously"
Everyone try it! |
